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Originally Posted by amandalouise
not sure what you mean by..... instinctive process to release the system....
if its what Im thinking ...that people who have DID can release/remove\change their system of alters...here where I live the answer is no not all systems of alters can be changed/released removed...
short version is Alters with DID have a job, purpose, reason for being...if their job, purpose, reason for being is to contain one moment in time /one traumatic event for example all that alter will be able to do is what that job, purpose reason for being is....
example one of my alters job, purpose, reason for being was to protect the secret at all costs, even if that meant self injury\suicide. nothnig my treatment providers and I could do to change\release/remove that alter. we tried contracts, we tried consequence/rewards, we tried self nurturing, you name it. in the end all we could do was inpatient to the mental hospital when that alter was a danger to herself and others. this very dangerous behavior ended only after the alter was integrated\merged back together with me (the aware self) everything they were became me. then since it was my own thoughts and behaviors I was able to finally have control over whether I self harmed or attempted suicide.
everyone's system of alters are set up in what ever ways they needed in order to survive, and if the jobs, purpose's reasons for being does not include such things as being able to change\evolve\be removed / be released/... then its not going to happen. just the way DID type alters work, some are able to do this and some can not.
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What I am saying is Dissociation is something humans can do naturally. It's not something that we are taught. Some people are more able to dissociate than others. So my thinking is, if humans have the natural capability to dissociate then humans may also have the natural capability to turn it off. (no offense to alters). We just don't know how. It's like, if someone never dissociated they can't just start. Because they wouldn't know how. I know what it feels like to dissociate. I don't know what it feels like to not dissociate. When my therapist would try to explain how she thinks, I was completely lost. I had no working knowledge of what she was talking about. But when I read something on this site I get right away. Because it is how my mind works. It is what I know. So the question for me is, how do I work toward not dissociating if I don't know what that feels like or how it works. I can't figure out the path I need to take because it is not what I know. This is why I need to go to therapy. Because a therapist knows the questions to ask that allows you to see what is going on in your head. At least for me that is how it was.