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Originally Posted by Supanova
I do think you are being unnreasonable and possibly ungrateful from this post.
I dont think it is too much of your dad to ask you to watch a show with him on occasion. Especially on his birthday or fathers day! Thats just plain mean not spending 40 odd minutes watching a show with him for him on a special day!! Is it *that* torturous for you to do something so simpleto make your father happy??
I hate rugby but I still make an effort to watch with my father because it is something he enjoys and he has supported me in all I have enjoyed in my life. He gets really excited when I watch sports with him. I make an effort to go to sports games with him when I have no clue what is going on - but it is quality time together - for a man that has supported me and loved me my whole life to the best of his ability. He's not perfect by any means but he's my dad.
Hell, I watched the Bold and the beautiful with my mother and Home and Away with my stepmother because they were shows they enjoyed. They enjoyed my company even if I didnt enjoy the show.
Sci fi fans are a special breed. Our shows mean A LOT to us. Sometimes there are messages in episodes that we try to share with other people. He could be trying to convey something to you in the way it was conveyed to him.
I would be absolutely devastated if I chose to have children and they would not even acknowledge how important a story is to me when they are at the age to understand it.
I've watched a variety of stargate series and there is very little gore in it??? And also depending on the series they have very different storylines.
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I'm not sure if you read through the whole post or if you just ignored the fact that she already said that she indulged him and he said just give it a chance, which she did. The thing here is that she's not being selfish, she's being assertive and he is, quite honestly clearly being the unreasonable one. After she watched the episode or amount of time he asked her to, that was not enough. he still believes she hasn't given it enough of a chance. This is controlling behavior, not just someone wanting to share something with you once in awhile but someone trying to force someone to "enjoy" something they happen to like. He is throwing a tantrum about it because she won't bend to his ways. I'm not sure how you can see this as her being selfish.
In truth your thoughts on this are not entirely without merit. I mean if it were a case where someone were asking someone nicely to once in a great while just share in a show with them to spend time together then yes to arbitrarily say no without that consideration might be a little insensitive and selfish but in this particular case I do not believe at all that this is what is happening.
As I stated previously I had a father that was very similar in behavior and we children were forced into 'enjoying' many of his passing interests and it was nothing about being with his kids but more about "molding" them into people that were just like him. Unless you've been in that type of situation, it might be hard to grasp but those types of personalities truly do exist and giving into their every whim is nothing less than enabling them and encouraging them to continue to push others around.
The "sci fi" folk being a special breed are no different than the anime otaku folk, the horror/gothic people or other very passionate fans about anything. I do not feel that there should be any special consideration becuase it has to do with sci fi or any other particular genre.