Also I have a really hard time telling my husband the whole truth. I don't want to have my fun ruined or I feel embarrassed or I feel like I'm letting him down or like he will worry too much or like he just won't get it and it will piss me off. So I definitely need to take my own advice sometimes too.

When you have kids it makes everything higher stakes. Show him some of these posts. He sounds like he is a nice guy.