Welcome!

I have an alcoholic, cocaine using and depressed dad, not husband, but I saw how my mother had to deal with him.. Like others have said, he promised to get better and everything and he never did. They are also right that if you do let him stay, his problem will eventually spiral out of control. He won't remain "functioning" forever, and whatever money you do have, you will definitely lose from his addictions. My father even went so far as to sell my stuff that had been mine and my brother's since we were little kids.

On the brighter side, there is hope. About 9 years later, my mother and father are not together (the alcohol, etc made them divorce) but they can be civil with each other. My brother and I speak to him weekly, and I am going to stay with him in August..

My advice, based on what I've seen in my life, is that you should separate him from your home at this time. I don't know if you should divorce or just separate for a while, but you need to have him out of there until he does seek help. You offered, keep offering. If you both love each other, you should be able to at least get some counseling and help from a third party. Your friends will all say you are better off without him, but in your heart you still love him.. whether or not you end up with him, you need proper closure other than a call where you both hang up crying. That is not healthy for either of you. I strongly suggest asking him again to seek couples counseling of some sort..