I think we are fundamentally in agreement. In the situation you describe where a client has an involuntary reaction during somatic experience (and the reaction is not troubling to the client), there is nothing wrong and nothing that needs to be discussed. That's a "body" reaction rather than an emotional one-- and it really isn't about the client-T relationship. I think rainbow's situation is different because the feelings arise for her-- and have been for quite some time-- when she concentrates on the T's appearance and she does experience these feelings as shameful because they're directed at someone of the same sex. I think, in this case, they signal something deeper.

I also remember back when rainbow reported the conversation where her T was concerned rainbow as "crossing over" during the hand-holding and, therefore, took it away temporarily. In this particular instance, I did not feel like the T's reaction was homophobic because it genuinely seemed like she was trying to operate with rainbow's best interests in mind. Her concern was that the touch might not be in rainbow's best interests and might be feeding into rainbow's "pattern" with her Ts-- rather than helping her overcome this pattern and learn how to comfort "little rainbow." Even if the T was wrong about rainbow "crossing over" (I have no ability to judge that), I think her intentions were in the right place and I don't think they came from a place of homophobia. I think she was doing her best to try and figure out what would be most helpful for rainbow. She was also, understandably, trying to figure out where the physical boundaries needed to be in that relationship. Could she have handled the situation a little better? Maybe? But I really do think she was trying her best, and keeping the client's best interests in mind. I really think she was trying to find the right boundaries to encourage the platonic/therapeutic love between her and rainbow, while avoiding/preventing any confusion or uncertainty.