Hmm. It's really complicated, and I don't think there was a single moment when I knew. I've always been attracted to women, but I wasn't raised around queer people and didn't know much about them until I was a teen. I was raised by a Mormon bishop and spent a lot of time listening to people talk about how disgusting same-sex relationships are. I used to secretly watch episodes of Will and Grace, but I didn't realize that the gay people I was watching on television were the same people I heard about in church. Plus, there weren't many openly lesbian celebrities at the time.

You'd think I would have realized that my attraction to women meant I was gay, but i didn't. It's just something I slowly became aware of. While my female friends had crushes on men and talked about wanting to date them, I wanted to cuddle with older women. I honestly believed that I just developed very close friendships with other women. I didn't realize that there was something romantic or sexual about it. Once I figured that out, I thought I might be bisexual. Then I realized that I'd never been attracted to any men before. That solidified it for me.