I've heard it's common, and I've experienced it myself, that we do struggle more with problem behaviors and symptoms in therapy, not (necessarily) because the therapy is bad, but because we're facing very unpleasant truths that we've been defended from because of how painful they are, and it's hard to cope while dealing with that reality, it's a learning process, takes time and care to get up to speed and rebalance.

So, I do not know if those struggles you mention are because you're doing the hard work, or a combination of that and the rupture with your therapist.

I am sorry you're in such pain. I can relate.

I believe your therapist is being unprofessional and inconsiderate in a really hurtful way. I absolutely hate her stance about being sorry for the way you feel, but not really taking responsibility (not to mention rectifying!) the injury she caused.

If it were me, I'd probably transition to a new therapist, because if you had work to do, you may still need to do it, and the support dealing with this rupture could be really helpful. I know it's a topic that many are ambivalent about, but there definitely are conscientious, skilled therapists who offer some touch during therapy and can be more consistent and clear and communicative about it.

If it were me also though, I'd just try to devote a lot of time to self-care, pampering and acceptance. It's ok to go to bed and not be social or super-mom for a while. Moms have struggles too, and if you can do your best to take care of yourself, then you're setting a good example anyway. I love MKAC's idea and Stopdog's about another therapist- maybe you can get creative or inspired by ideas like that and find some comfort.

Best,

Leah.