I was thinking of you today as I read your post this morning and went for a drive today to visit my brother. I wonder how many couples sessions you might need before this has been resolved or whatever you might care to describe it. I am agreeing with Echoes that you are at a difficult time and that individual sure would be a good support to you. Even if not regularly perhaps you can add some sessions though regularity is a good thing. I know you do not wish to break the bank.

I am sorry that things are difficult and I think that you are doing well by yourselves and your child(ren) to be going through this to facilitate a "successful" divorce and transition.

I also agree with Alex that you clarify some boundaries for that transparency mechanism. That would concern me and you really do need to be able to tell him whatever without holding back in your individual therapy.

Hang in there... You will make it. I just know it. :-)