rainbow - this post is about therapists in general, I'm not singling out your experience.
I honestly think that if a therapist touches a patient in an intimate (not sexual, but emotionally) it would be surprising if patients did NOT develop feelings.
The whole therapeutic set up primes attraction/strong feelings (I know most people do NOT experience attraction toward their therapist and I know it's not done by therapists on purpose)...sharing of strong intimate feelings, prolonged eye contact, all attention focused on patient, regular contact...etc
(This will make me incredibly unpopular, but I don't think therapists should touch patients - handshakes and an occasional brief hug are OK). Touch will lead to confusing feelings or feelings of love - It enrages me when therapists act surprised or aren't prepared to handle it comfortably. In particular, I believe this is a common pattern...
Therapist touches patients/is loose with boundaries --> patient develops feelings --> pt shares feelings with therapist --> therapist gets uncomfortable (it seems particularly pronounces when it's same-sex) --> therapist removes touch or all of the sudden implements strict boundaries that were not in place before --> patient feels like their feelings of love/attachment are "bad" and "unwelcomed" and makes people pull away reinforcing their core beliefs of unlovabity--> therapeutic rupture which sometimes cannot be mended.
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