I agree with all of the posters above! I don't write as eloquently and thoughtfully as that, but I wish I did.

I just want to add one thing. When your therapist uses the term "crossing over", I think that means your feelings are leaning more towards the erotic than the maternal/affection type?

It sounds, to me, that when that happens, she considers withdrawing touch and hand holding. That as long as it's not erotic she can touch you but if you become aroused, then she has to stop?

That is not good, almost seems like a veiled threat. If she can't handle erotic feelings she never should have incorporated touch into your therapy. But since she has, she CAN NOT stop now. She needs to learn how to deal with all of the love feelings.

As we have seen with several other PC members, withdrawal of touch, after allowing it, can be catastrophic, in my opinion.

Take care, sweetie. You work so hard in your therapy and have grown so much.