Different people here have varying opinions about dependency in therapy, and I have no way of knowing how and whether it helps others. However, I believe it's important for a client to decide if dependency is a
goal for therapy or an undesired biproduct. If a relationship forms in opposition to client goals, or if the therapy becomes
about the therapy, I think these are important things to realize and assess. I didn't understand how detrimental the therapist-as-authority/parent figure was to me until I was long away from it.
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Originally Posted by lolagrace
I think this is a very important point. In my experience, my therapists weren't pretending to help me though. What they did very overtly was to let me know what they were about was helping me find and use my own ability to care for myself that I thought I had lost (or perhaps I thought I never had). They kept telling me they knew the answers for my life were within myself; all they were doing was helping me find a way to access what was already there. They never claimed to have the answers; they claimed I could find the answers and just helped me reach that place for myself.
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