when you said you got past the issue with him dating others and seeking out women, did you really get past it or did he convince you that it was ok? I'm asking honestly if you really analyze it, it would be a good thing to ponder. It seems to me everything about his behavior is pointing to the idea that he probably has not change that behavior but has only pulled the wool over your eyes somehow in convincing you he's exclusive with you.

Constant texting, emailing, conversing with women is not normal or acceptable. Saying hes charismatic and people like him is no excuse for lack of control and being able to say no to women that come after you too much or text you too much. That's purely a choice, he has that in this situation and I think if he truly cared for you as much as he wants you to believe they'd be gone or at least the texts and such would be kept at a minimum.