I'm so sorry that you had to hear this devastating news.
You want to save the relationship if possible, but you recognize that it may not be possible.
You could take a week or two to live with the news while minimizing contact with him and see if your initial horror seems like it could soften, and think about what if anything could conceivably save the relationship (e.g. counseling for him, I would guess that he is carrying a lot of guilt right now, and you would need serious assurance that he is nowhere near as troubled now as he obviously was at that time). I only mention this because you speak so highly of wanting to save the relationship if possible.
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He feels terrible about it and is so sorry but he thought the right thing to do is come clean and tell me because he wants us to last a long time.
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How could he possibly think that telling a woman this piece of information would contribute to the relationship lasting a long time? I would think it quite obvious that this news would tend to destroy a relationship, and your reaction and that of other women who posted so far seem to corroborate that. Thus I wonder if, right now, not just 10 years ago, he has the kind of judgment that you would want to see in a boyfriend. Perhaps he thinks that this news, while troubling, is not an obvious dealbreaker--which of course in itself would lead one to seriously question his judgment.