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Originally Posted by Leah123
My therapist isn't more evolved or superior, she's simply experienced in her field and has a desire to help along with having done her own work so helping is easier. She's nothing more or less than a human well suited to the helping profession. I think avoiding the disaster you speak of means keeping perspective about a therapist's abilities, intentions and personhood. That can be hard because of the nature of the process, but I've found it worthwhile.
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This is how I thought of my ex T. She was like a guardian angel. But then things ended and i began to raise questions. And she turned on me. Not because she is a bad person, but because I triggered her own insecurities.
Even the most selfless and well intentioned T can eventually be turned inside out by a client, and then nobody is "minding the store". And then the one who is in the vulnerable position in the therapy relationship is subject to possible abuse and trauma. This does not make all therapists bad people or incompetent. For me it is a basic hypocrisy that was latent and then made manifest, and as much to do with the setup of therapy as individual Ts.
Don't mean to sound self righteous, but I have now seen the dark side and I have suffered as a result.