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Old May 14, 2015, 09:46 AM
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Because he needs to end a session early does not mean he is trying to distance himself from you. T's know that they are in a position where people become reliant on them. They know that people NEED to feel safe and be reliant.That is a good thing. It is to early to start giving you your own wings so you can fly solo. I think you feel guilty and you are projecting that onto the situation.

Though I can understand I am not fully certain of the circumstances. If you really truly feel this is an issue, maybe a different T would be better. The fact that you fl safe with him and you are able to tell him how you feel though sounds like a positive step. For folks like you and I it is hard to be reliant on someone else, let alone let them know that as well. Folks like us see reliance as a weakness when in reality that is part of our issue to begin with.

Take things in stride, continue to come here and talk to us, let us help you deal with life's issues until the T returns. After your next meeting reassess how things are going and take it from there. Just hand in there. T is hard and it stirs up all kinds of confusing emotions. It feels like hell right now but in the long run it is a good thing and you are going to be OK. You will look back and be so much happier with who you are then who you were.
Hugs from:
baseline, emwell
Thanks for this!
baseline, emwell