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Originally Posted by Cazilla
So I am 25 and was recently told that I am aggressive over all about everything. That I like to get my way even if it's an inconvenience to others. That I drive aggressively. That I'm open and I speak my mind. That I am too opinionated. Also that I'm too straight forward. That I like to know where my relationships are going instead of going with the flow. That when I want something, I get it. That to do too much, or go overboard, that I don't know when to tone things down or when to stop. Last but not least, that I lack subtlety and I don't know when to stop and do more than necessary.
I don't know how to feel anymore, how to change the way I am. My life wasn't easy or loving. My life has been extremely hard and I am a very strong person. I don't consider myself to be mean. I sometimes interrupt when I get excited but I do my best. I feel no matter what, I will not be perfect and for this very reason I do not like getting close to people.
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With every personality trait, in my mind there is a positive and a negative side. For someone like you it seems to me that perhaps you're an assertive, capable and confident woman, but it may be true that you can be aggressive. Many times, with people the negative things about life, the world and people are what sticks in our minds the most. It's not that it's the whole make up of your personality but sometimes the bad parts remain memorable. I think that is natural for most people. In your case I'd guess you have a good side, someone that can take charge, lead and effectively make things happen when necessary. That is a good trait.
Try to remember that being assertive and confident, even one that speaks her mind at all times, is not really a bad thing. Try to see the good in it and focus on being aware when you may be letting your assertiveness become aggressiveness. You don't need to change that trait of your personality but use it positively.
Don't push people away or try to remain at a distance, keep in mind you just haven't found the right people that can handle your powerful personality. Take heart, there are people that want that in a mate, friend..etc.
