Marigold, I hurt for you. Even he has cancer he has way too many to take care of him. I dont want to say something bad about someone who has cancer, but to do what he does is rude and he chose to do this in front of you. I think he likes the attention and I think he would like it even he was cancer free. I hope he is not that narcissistic type, they like attention from several women and dont care how his girlfriend/significant other feel.

I know you have said you will handle it by time because you dont feel you can withdraw now. I wouldnt want to be with someone who did this to me. So I hope by time you will leave the realtionship.