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Old May 14, 2015, 10:06 PM
marigold115 marigold115 is offline
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Originally Posted by seeker1950 View Post
I'm going to sound preachy, but this caregiving is NOT your job. You are not his wife. I mentioned earlier I did that for two years for a man who was in constant contact with his ex's. I thought, like you, I couldn't be the woman who abandoned a sick man. Now, years past this, I look back and shake my head at WHY I hung in there for so long, wasting my valuable time to a man who had no emotional integrity.

It actually sounds like you want this role of caregiver to a thankless partner. If that is the case, go for it.
It's not that I want the role, seeker, it's that I told his family I would do it, and I feel like I'd have no emotional integrity if I backed out. I also don't want to add any more stress to his mental state, which needs to stay positive. I'm not trying to be a martyr, I just want to do what's right.