As soon as I read the words "I truly feel love for," I knew you were equivocating about the love and not head-over-heels-in-love. That was even before I read the rest of the post.

You respect and appreciate your wife, but you want more excitement. I think you've gotten a bit bored at home. With these two men, you've felt intensely desired. I don't think you care for them a whole lot, but it's fun.

Maybe you're betting that, if she finds out, your wife will be forgiving . . . especially if you tell her you don't love either of the guys. Still, even if she forgives, she'll be hurt . . . and the relationshio will permanently change.

It sounds like you got into a committed bond before you were really ready. She was, but you weren't. Maybe the two of you need to talk.