You may know this already, but there are identities on the ace and aro spectrums called lithsexual and akoisexual, and lithromantic and akoiromantic.

Lithsexual means you have the desire for a sexual relationship, but don't want to act on that desire or have it reciprocated.

Akoisexual means you have the desire for a sexual relationship, but if you acted on it and it was reciprocated, your desire would fade.

Lithromantic means you have the desire for a romantic relationship, but you don't want to act on that desire or have it reciprocated.

Akoiromantic means you desire a romantic relationship, but if you acted on it and it was reciprocated, your desire would fade.

Or you might be demisexual/demiromantic, and only desire a relationship with someone once you've developed a close emotional connection to them.

It's a big spectrum and the important thing is not to put yourself down. The way you are and the way you feel, are just fine.

I'm aro-ace so I get it.