Hi, I wrote a thread about this a while back, hope it will help.

http://forums.psychcentral.com/psych...-tool-kit.html

From that thread, I especially recommend the DBT Workbook. http://www.amazon.com/Dialectical-Be.../dp/1572245131

It's really useful, not just for the target demographic in my experience. I liked it for myself because it was interactive and blended mindfulness lessons/exercises with an excellent list of self-soothing and self-care options.