Hey. that sounds like many people I know in an awkward social situation. In a month or two that may not even be a memory.
My own preoccupation with what people thought of me, my therapist drew out how much that stemmed from overbearing parents with super control and no flexibility. Therapy helped me to get my life back and not just be living in the shadow of my parents.
Sometimes I calm myself with this:
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Breathing exercise with natural breathing do not force.
If you are feeling very anxious or angry or just want to calm down, you can try a breathing exercise that takes the attention away from the trigger of anxiety to a simple tool of counting breaths.
Find a comfortable position seated or laying down. Begin to relax your breathing. Silently count 1 on the inhale, and two on the exhale. Then silently count 3 on the inhale and 4 on the exhale. Continue up to 10 or until you lose the count then return to one. No judgement. I sometimes end up at 18 then smile and return to 1. The idea is to focus on the breath and the counting and not get sucked into the anxiety or anger trigger. Also works to quiet the mind.
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