This may sound harsh, but I mean it with best intent. Have you considered talking to your mother about how you feel? You are an adult, and married and out of the house. YOu control what you do. You may just need to tell her straight up that you aren't a child anymore and are capable of having a thought process. You are also capable of acknowledging the consequences of any action you take. I really don't think your mom is trying to control you, but doesnt realize that she is causing your strife. You really need to let her know that this needs to stop, or she will continue to do it.