On Thursday morning, I dumped the guy I had been dating for the past few months. He was the first person I had been intimate with (physically and emotionally) in a long, long time. I used to be a good judge of character but now I'm feeling like I've been completely oblivious.

He SEEMED like a really decent guy. In hindsight, there were some red flags, but I didn't see them at the time. I found out on Wednesday night that he had sex with someone else (twice) while we were together. That's not the worst part, though. The person he had sex with was a student he met while he was COUNSELLING her. (He's the disabilities resource facilitator at the university where we both work.) She had a breakdown and subsequently had to drop out of school. She tracked him down and he actually slept with her TWICE. He told me he felt guilty about sleeping with her... but not because he took advantage of someone vulnerable and made a huge moral and ethical breach. He just felt guilty because he was dating me and was worried about me finding out.... but then when I DID find out, he was surprised that I broke up with him. He thought I would forgive him. WTF? He still doesn't get that it's OVER and there's no way I could ever forgive something like this. I'm just disgusted by his behaviour, worried about the girl he took advantage of, and wondering how I could have been so STUPID.

I'm just wondering how I could have spent SO much time with someone who is so morally bankrupt. We spent a lot of time together and I thought I knew what kind of person he was. He seemed sensitive and caring and compassionate and DECENT. I have always thought of myself as an intelligent, insightful and intuitive person. I don't trust my own judgment anymore. Ugh.

Just needed to rant.