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Old May 16, 2015, 10:21 AM
arundelle arundelle is offline
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It's the lying I would be more concerned with than the cheating. Do you catch him lying in other areas of his life? Does it feel like he's trying to get over on you?

I'm not you, of course, but if it hit me as hard as it's saying it hit you, I'd call it a deal breaker. The guy screwed up. He should never make you feel like that's okay for him to do. He knew it was wrong or he wouldn't have hid it from you. If he's making you feel like it's wrong for you to have feelings about his behavior, then he's the one that's in the wrong.

You have to accept how you really feel to deal with it. Trying to pretend it's okay when it's not isn't going to work. You have to mourn the idea that you have some perfect relationship. No relationship is perfect. You've discovered where the hole is in yours.

Now you have to decide, is it a deal breaker or not? If it is, you know what to do. If it isn't, then you have to let yourself feel the pain so you can get past it.