Lots of problems can be solved by mutual discussion but sometimes they are only one-sided/"our" problems and we don't realize it and need help learning what is "mine," what "yours" and what is "ours." Just because I want to talk about something doesn't mean the other person wants or needs to talk about it and sometimes we can get "stuck" and a therapist can help us move on again. We can only affect our own lives, take care of ourselves and our thoughts and feelings, not another person's and sometimes that's hard to learn.