I really hesitated in posting what I'm about to post. Its quite personal to share, but I really wanted to weigh in here.

I'm not a huge fan of the way sex is portrayed in porn films. Its just so rough, and it seems like the women aren't enjoying it. But....to each their own. And I admit, I watch it from time to time.

An ex left 2 porns at my apartment when we split and I still have them. I admit, sometimes I pop them in, when I'm by myself, just to get myself a little excited. I fast forward to the parts that aren't disgusting....the one's I have don't show violent sex.....one is a spoof of the Adam's family, and one is just a bunch of people having sex outdoors. Most of it doesn't appeal to me, namely the intercourse scenes. It just doesn't look appealing lol. But some of it is a little more sensual and those are the scenes I watch sometimes.

I also used to watch it every once and awhile with the ex, to spice things up a bit. He also had a Kama Sutra dvd that had actual couples demonstrating different positions. That one was good.

So thats where I'm at on a personal level with it. The other night on HBO, my boyfriend was flipping and we came across a show about porn stars getting ready for their annual Emmy awards. It was pretty crazy, watching the interviews with these people. They genuinly seemed to enjoy what they do....they even have a huge awards ceremony. The women talked about the "rules" they have. They all said they have a choice of who they work with and what they're willing to do. Now I'm sure these people are in the "higher end" movies. I'm sure there are a ton of porn companies out there who don't treat their employees well, just like in any industry. But in this case, all the actors and actresses really seemed to enjoy what they do, and take precautions and stuff. I'm sure a lot of them are simply in it for the money. Its a huge money making industry. Lots of people do crazy things for money.

I'm not getting in on the debate here, I'm just not much of a debator. But I wanted to share that I'm a normal 28 year old female who is not violent, was never abused, has never abused, never has thoughts of abusing, and I watch porn every now and again......

There are porn addicts just like there's addicts for just about anything, alcohol addicts, drug addicts, video game addicts, shopping addicts, internet addicts, the list goes on. I think its when the addiction comes in, that it becomes a problem.

My thoughts on pornography? I don't like most of it. But I do like the excitment it brings sometimes. Do I think its degrading of women and of men? Some of it yes. Do I think it could be made more tastefully? Yes. Do I think it will ever go away? Uh, no. Sex sells. Unfortunately there are shady porn makers just like there are shady people in every industry. Its hard to lump it all together as an entire industry being shady. In my opinion, I don't think the industry as a whole is shady.

Don't know why I felt the need to post on this, at first I really wasn't going to. Sexual behaviors is a very personal topic. But I discuss every other personal topic so why not this one as well.

Anyway, thats it.

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Thanks,

Rayna