Jenn, are you talking about an orgasm during intercourse? I just wanted to comment on the "finger" discussion lol. Yeah a finger is fine for me for clitoral stimulus, but a finger has never made me orgasm vaginally. In fact vaginal orgasm during sex was always impossible for me until about the last year. I can understand if you're not acheiving orgasm during sex with this guy. Have you in the past, with "bigger" men? Or has it always been hard during intercourse? Many women have a difficult time acheiving during sex, if ever. I really thought I was lost cause on that front. It wasn't until I was 27 that I had my first one during intercourse. Clitoral orgasms were never a problem.

I also had A LOT of issues with sex to work though. Once I worked though all those issues, and fell in love, and have sex because I want to and not because I feel like I have to, the sex is much more pleasurable, I'm more relaxed, so more happens.

I would say its more than the penis size, but I also think that size could play a part if its not "hitting the good areas".....or something haha.