I personally don't have problems with suggestions, they are after all merely suggestions.


You don't agree with them, you decline. Case closed.


I may be wrong, but seems your tendency toward guilt is what make third party suggestions intolerable, when they're seemingly innocent.


Now I have a sister who actually makes plans FOR you, and THAT is undeniably rude and completely inconsiderate.


She wont dare do it to me though, she may be 15 years older, but she knows I would tell her to take a hike and I definitely won't be nice about it.


Your sister and friend seem to have had an innocent enough motive in their conversation, he probably didn't want to be alone on a specific day, and she in turn suggested that you might be interested in hanging out with him...


From what you've written, He obviously did the asking you bit, so nobody just assumed you would go.


Or did I misunderstand and he was already under the impression that you were definitely going to hang out???

Because if that is what happened, then I understand your frustration and agree she was out of line and should have called you first.


But it doesn't seem rude or over bearing to me if a suggestion was all it was. But again, that's just me, and I see suggestions "innocently".