Hi Moonkin,
You are not destined to hell! I'm a woman and there is no judgement here, I'm just sorry you are in turmoil. You have discovered a pattern that you are not comfortable with and maybe there are a lot of reasons for that. This is something that you should share and discuss with a therapist so that you can make the change that you want to.
Feeling shame only makes us worse, so try not to feel shameful, just discuss the issue and try to resolve.
(((Moonkin)))
Tranquility
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