Originally Posted by baseline View Post
Isn't that the stupidest thing. I am a married woman with a loving family and I look to him to feel safe!

Not it is not the stupidest thing. It is a step in the right direction to know that you can open up and you can be attached to someone other then your family. That is saying alot. I used to not be able to make attachments to anyone, and it was a huge problem. If you have a T that you feel safe and comfortable with then that says alot for your mental state. It is a positive, you are not cold hearted, you are not unable to form attachments and bonds. Those are all hard things to over come.

Just because you have an attachment to someone outside of your house hold, doesn't mean you are doing anything wrong. It means you have more then one safe outlet. You have your H and kids at home, your co workers at work, your friends here, your friends IRL, you have your T.

There is little difference in having attachments to any of those versus your T. HE is human, he is a friend, he is a professional. It kinda lets your H off the hook a little to It gives him a break from being your everything or at least it gives him a chance to let someone else handle the big issues. So it is a win win for everyone involved.