Hi, Dog on a Tree. Yes, it is my opinion that everyone gets a version of the frustrated-when-don't-get-one's-way. I think though that it is a learning experience. Two year old's have temper tantrums, sort of what you are complaining about? The trick for me has been to watch and notice and then focus on the frustration instead of whatever I'm not getting.

Nothing "outside" ourselves is very useful to us so taking things personally, that the outside and what other people are saying and doing is about us instead of them and allowing it to affect us negatively, doesn't make sense in the larger scheme of things. We cannot control other people so trying to make them say, do, think, etc. something instead of changing our own thinking and actions ultimately won't work and will be even more frustrating for us.

We are responsible for identifying and getting what we want so we have to go out and meet people rather than insist people come to us, we have to be aware of what our goal is, what we want and going after it. If we want a clean kitchen, for example, we have to take the garbage out, expecting someone else to do that or getting frustrated that we ask and they say they will but don't, when it may not be what they want, will just leave us feeling upset and frustrated? It is not a contest or will struggle; we try to choose friends that want us to be happy and want to be with us and enjoy us, etc. But how we do things is not necessarily how others want or do things, there is no "right" way to live and people who want to be slobs, for example, don't care if the garbage gets taken out, expecting them to care or want what we want and getting upset when they don't, that does not help make us feel good? If feeling good for me is an empty garbage can, I'm going to take out the garbage!