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Originally Posted by Perna
Sometimes when I get anxious about something, I work to turn my thinking around and tell myself I am excited about that thing? After all, some things like roller coasters and watching horror shows, etc. are exciting because they are scary.
If I were in your situation, tearsinabottle, I would make "suggestion" and "invitation" mean the same thing. I would think that this friend and my sister care about me and want me to know that I have a friend whom I can visit if I want, that it isn't just my sister's friend but mine too if I want. Sometimes it is hard to go through change (your sister moving away) and start up, ask others for help or support? I think the friend may have been just preempting that and telling you it would be okay to visit, not that you "should".
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I agree with your view, Perna
thank you for replying. I think I got anxious and feeling heavy yesterday because I am depressed. When being depressed and feel something is expected of you or that you let people down, then I dont feel well and it adds stress to me. I dreaded or did not look forward to having to text him and decline because it makes me feel bad.
I think I felt visiting him would be expected of me, but I realize that it may be only me who were thinking and feeling like this. Still its a real feeling for me and I got stressed by the thought, even annoyed for the only reason that I am sick. But I know they meant it well