Hey there. First time poster here and I could really use some advice and, honestly, I'm looking forward to writing all of this down. Here we go.

So, about a month a half ago, an absolutely gorgeous girl messaged me on OKCupid. We texted a bunch over the next few days and hit it off really well. She has a good sense of humor, responded well to my sarcasm and general playfulness, and just generally seemed like a loving, caring, and empathetic human. Sparks were definitely flying.

We met up a few days later at a bar (where karaoke was happening) with a few of her friends, and a few of mine. It was pretty casual, but we were digging each other. She ended up inviting me back to her place, so we walked and held hands and I spent the night. We didn't have sex, but made out a bunch and fell asleep. We were pretty smitten.

The texts got pretty heavy...but I was really into it. She would say things like "nobody has ever seemed to make me feel this happy before" and "I think I found my human." (in reference to me). She also was afraid I was going to leave or hurt her or something. I of course reassured her that that wouldn't happen. She seemed head over heels... now, I'm a romantic and admittedly jump headfirst into things...but it felt different with this one. I REALLY liked her. About 4 or 5 days in, she asked me "so, I'm your girlfriend, right?"...she was pretty scared about me saying no...but I absolutely said yes. In my mind, she is the total package, so why wouldn't I want to be with her? Despite only knowing this person for a week, things were moving REALLY fast...but we both were into it and said screw it.

Fast forward to about the past month. I started to notice the romantic level of the texting stopped... she seemed to be emotionally withdrawing herself. She has a lot of friends and values alone time (as we all do), so as a result has been quite stressed out. She also told me she was overwhelmed. She assured me, twice, not to worry about us... That she just has to hash some stuff out in her head. I'm usually very confident and am able to just do my own thing without worries, but the attention I received from her at first was so overwhelmingly positive and amazing, that the lack of it is scaring the hell out of me. It feels like I'm still at the level we were at a month ago, but with her, the brakes have been dramatically pumped. (I should mention that she has been in some ****** relationships in the past and her Dad left the family when she was younger).

I've been doing my absolute best to play it cool. I've been preoccupying myself with the gym, playing music, etc... but she is always on my mind. Even when we hang out, it's usually with friends and at times, it feels like she isn't into me at all. Total lack of affection.

To wrap this up, last week, she said she needed a few days to process her feelings so she can fully understand them, then she'd talk to me. Since, we've hung out and things have been okay I suppose. I'm always initiating very minor physical contact, not her. I just crave more affection and want to feel wanted.

Do you all think I should bring up talking, or should I just give her space and let her dictate that conversation? As much as I'm trying to not think about it, it's eating me up... but I don't want to come across as needy or in need of reassurance that everything is okay. Help?