I think my mother has some narcissistic tendencies, but I never tied in the weird paranoia she gets with that. You might be right. I really am not even sure what to call what she does. It's just strange. Something will happen, like a new rule she doesn't like goes into effect, and she starts to passionately hate the person who is implementing the rule.

And half the time, if she just kept her mouth shut, she could keep doing whatever it was she was doing in the first place, but she makes this big, dramatic stink like it's some sort of civil rights fight - and then she has to talk about it *all the time* for *years and years.* This is really very minor stuff, too! I am DONE trying to help her with these problems. It has taken me years to figure out that they are not really problems except in her head!

I really do think that the other group would have told you if your skills were not a good fit. It makes no sense to me that they would want to save your feelings by not saying anything to you - silence is just as hurtful. If they cared about hurting your feelings, they would have said that your skills were great but not what they needed right now. Your company sounds pretty poorly run, so it's not a great leap to make the assumption that this group was just too disorganized to figure out how to hire you.

Your decision to go back to therapy after quitting reminds me of that coin toss decision making trick, where you toss a coin and see what you think of the outcome. You tossed the coin and it turns out you wanted it to land on heads and not tails Sometimes it's easier to figure out what we want by actually moving forward, so I am glad you did! Do you think you will commit to a certain amount of time before you reconsider?

Were you as disappointed with spray foam as I was???? It seemed really useless to me - it over expanded like crazy and oozed all over the place. I wound up tossing the can and returning the second one I had bought.

Good luck with the condo board meeting if you decide to go! Have you ever read condo-line in the Miami Herald? I love reading that one and the NYT real estate advice column

Wow, I really don't want to go into the office today.