I'm so sorry your experience with men has been so negative and abusive.

You know an estimate says that 90% of sexual offenders are men. Their victims overwhelmingly are women and a small minority of them are men. 95 to 99% of pedophiles are men.
90% of criminals in jail, world over, are men.

But just because 90% of offenders are men, doesn't mean, 90% of men are offenders.

Majority of men are decent. I know you think that you cannot tell whether a man is decent or an offender by interacting with him on a daily basis. But there are many generalizations that hold true. Most criminals who commit crime have Narcissistic personality disorder or anti-social personality disorder. They generally have some personality disorder or other.

A psychologist once described that sexually abusive people are the ultimate narcissist who are just focused on their needs.

I know it may seem like men are assholes, but let me assure, all of them are not. A minority of men are assholes, just like a minority of women are assholes...their degree of assholeness may vary. You've had bad experiences in past. Maybe it's clouding your judgement. Or maybe jerks are constantly lookout for vulnerable targets and when your experience (esp childhood experience) with men has been abusive, it makes you a vulnerable target. Same reason, why women who've had physically abusive fathers may end up marrying a physically abusive guy. Subconsciously, there is a familiarity to the abusive environment.

While this is not true 100% of time, there is a some truth to it.

I grew up in a family of narcissists (because they grew up in a family of narcissists) and I seem to attract friends who are narcissists and end up using me. I am a vulnerable target to them and subconsciously, narcissists are good at picking people who'd get into a narcissistic-dance with them. 90% of communication is non-verbal.

So how can it change? With healing. By working on your trauma and coming out of it. And that's a slow process and requires a lot of work.

I sincerely hope you are working with a therapist. If not, please take your time and find a therapist you are comfortable working with. You cannot keep yourself in a prison of solitude because of past experience. Don't let history taint your future.