Now, my sister is a controlling woman raised by a very controlling jewish family. God bless my mom, but she was a suburban neighborhood gossipy housewife, with all of her gossipy housewife friends.

She passed away when I was a teenager, and my sister, being four years older, kind of picked up some of the slack of her role with my father and I. She is a good sister, has always been there for me, and I would consider us having a close sibling relationship. However, she gets into my business way too much, and now that I am growing older and seem to be starting the process of starting my own family, my sister gets, to me, unreasonably overbearing, and I think it's really annoying my girlfriend.

My girlfriend has tried very hard to be close to my sister, I've expressed to her it's important that the two of them try to get along, but she seems to be resisting now because my sister has been shutting her down. My girlfriend and I went through a rough patch after I moved from a different state to be in a city closer to her and her daughter. We've separated for a 3 month period, and are now, that the dust has settled, in a good place and giving it another go.

My girlfriend is four years older than me and has a daughter with her ex husband, so there are the issues of a custody battle going on now. I think my sister's looks down on her because of this, but if I've learned to not care about it, then I would think my sister, if she really wants to be my sister and FRIEND, would understand too.

How do women work when it comes to situations like this? There is definitely a power struggle between these two dominating/controlling personalities. I love them both, and I think they really would get along if my sister could learn to put her guard down a bit. My sister is pregnant now, and expecting her first baby any day now. Is that going to help? Perhaps they will have that in common? They haven't even spoken since we're giving it another go, which is fine, but I would like for them to talk. Do I just let it go and let it naturally take it's course? Or do I step in and let them both know how important it is to me? I think they both know, but maybe a reassurance, especially from my sister, would be nice that she understands. She says things that make me feel like she's not in OUR corner. Like she's another obstacle in our relationship. I don't want that.

I have made it a point to become friends with her husband. She says it's because we like each other so much. Well, yeah, and I made it a point to open my arms for him into the family. She's fooling herself if she thinks I've never doubted their relationship. I just don't show it to her. I don't see the point.