His mum is completely aware and she is incredible- she's the person I'm the most open with. I haven't spoken to her about the kids though, might be a good idea. She knows I don't want to take the kids swimming because I don't want them to see self harm marks on my legs, but I don't think she's mentioned anything to them. I'm close to them as a family though and don't want to lie to them, but at the same time I don't want to affect the kids.