Thanksto both of you for the input. It is reassuring to know I am going in the right direction. I did explain that while it may be a pattern they were used to, I am not going anywhere. I touch base regularly, with just statements, how work is, hope you are having a good day...things that keep them informed but require no interaction. I have started to receive little snippets in return. When they are grounded and ready to return to the real world I think I will say that at some point we need to learn a language so when thing come around again we can have a plan in place. I know pushing and prying is not good.
Thanks so much! Seeing them when it is good, knowing what is in their heart makes the effort all worth it!
Good luck with your journey too!