I hear ya Rayne, my mom likes to drink and my dad isn't around much. This makes my mom take it personally when my sis and I have our own lives. We are expected to go to school, do well, pay for just about everything and somehow spend all our free time with her. The balance is to make sure you are okay and happy then spend energy and time that you have left over. This may be little to none right now since you are working so hard to free yourself. It sounds like you are in a similar situation to mine even though it was from different circumstances. It is very frustrating feeling like you're being told to "grow up" and yet at the same time not given any stability. I've also dealt with differences between religion, but again the difference being it was an ex not my mom. The only thing to do there is not listen to judgement and just try to be yourself imo. It'll be a bit tough till you move out so feel free to msg me if you need to