Rayne, I empathize with your situation. I'm 20 and I know what it feels like to live with parents (or a parent - as in your situation) who does not allow you to go out whenever you'd like. Just like you I can't afford to move out but wish that I could while I complete college.

Do you anticipate a lot of time left until you can finally move out? Are you almost done college? Does your boyfriend live by himself - could you potentially move in with him or with a close friend? Would you even consider moving in with your boyfriend or is it too early still? Just some questions to think about...

What your mom is doing is unacceptable. You deserve your independence as a 21 year old as you seem like a responsible person who respects your mother and siblings. She needs to stop taking things out of proportion and placing any guilt or anger left over from the divorce onto you. That is a separate issue she needs to address herself.

You've mentioned your mom won't seek help. Have you attempted to ask her to consider seeing a psychologist or counsellor? Maybe look into possibilities in your area (free ones to start with if money is an issue) and then propose your mom attends a session and that if she'd like you can attend with her.