I really have to agree that those who were formerly abused are more vulnerable to it happening again. I think I personally have a subconsciously-based self-degrading way of speaking and acting, plus a spoken worldview which sounds more like a fantasy than cold, hard reality, that may draw in the wrong people. The way I talk about everything is always "gentle," mostly because I avoid conflict in conversations. This is probably because of past experiences of walking on eggshells with certain people. Since most communication is nonverbal, then the way I act physically is probably the biggest indicator that I'm an "easy target." I'm sure what I said about myself holds true for others.

I have trouble trusting both men and women, and not really one over the other, but I really did want to hear some thoughts on this, since statistics show most sexual abusers happen to be men. I agree with you, cluelessgal, that offenders don't make up the majority of the population. It's important to remember that.

Thank you all for your thoughts and examples.