Unfortunately I put a lot of ME into decorating that house & buying furniture with inheritance that I got from my grandmother & all my craft things & I still have cloths that I left & even things that I brought into the marriage from my childhood & then I had all my mother's furniture on top of ours after she died right before I left him.

Ironically it was my inheritance that allowed me to leave him.....funny because she was the one who talked me into getting married to him in the first place after I had seen all these red flags before the wedding & wanted to cancel the wedding.......it got so bad the last 13 years of the marriage that I was literally seeing red every time I had to deal with him. Financially I had been trapped there those years but it was a large house so I lived in my side of the house & he lived in his....LOL, that's one good thing about having a large house.....but it's hard to avoid contact when living under the same roof & that was where the anger just kept building