thank you very much,i guess my worries were stopping me, but your outside view is actually really valid-i am concerned and if i show my friend this, maybe it will help with the "i really really am not trying to seem possessive or get with you" message i also want to send. I guess i just didn't want to weird out my friend. yes, i love all of my friends,- platonic love is normal- this one's just going into overdrive because of the girl. I am now doing all i can to help, even speaking directly to the girl that hurt my friend, because when i offered to do so, my friend accepted and is fully on board with it. this girl continues to bother and sexually harass my friend.