your mother's statement that you are her son.. really bothers me, as if to imply because as her son you have no rights to choose your way of dealing with them and like you say are obligated regardless of what abuse you might have to endure. Well flip the tables on that one. yes you are her son and as such should be treated as such and in most environments that are healthy, the children are treated as their own people, not subordinates in some authoritarian environment. You're not an object to be manipulated, controlled nor an employee, subordinate or underling to be ordered around, and mistreated. personally, I would have the inclination to point this out to them but I understand if that's not something you feel comfortable doing.