I too have this issue... My PTSD is severe and keeps me from being able to be hypnotized or undergo EMDR. I do know when I talk to the little one and give her lots of reasons to trust the strong woman she backs off a little and let's go. Practice, Practice, Practice is key for me to trust. I hope you find a way to let go a little so you can get the benefit of EMDR as I have seen amazing results from others who have undergone this therapy!