So, you could say this is "my fault" or whatever but i need help...

not that im trying to change my husband, but maybe im doing something wrong but i dont know.

So, i feel like im not wanted by my husband anymore.....like he doesnt flirt with me, he isnt spontaneous(?), hes not romantic, nothing. Now, he wasnt EXACTLY like that in the beginning, but he was very protective (which is a major turn on for me, but not like in a commanding way but like a if he thinks a guy was flirting with me, he would step inbetween and like tell him to backoff and whatnot). But anyway, like i feel like he doesnt (okay EGO TIME HERE) treat me like a princess/queen. I get nothing. Like we will have like "our time" together and whatnot, but hes selfish even when it comes to that. Like, he wants things a certain way, and he wants to be stimulated first, and im always on top....(PS - not that you people really needed to know that but still). But i mean its like a STUGGLE to get him to uh.....PLEASURE me. I have to like practically beg or like do whatever for him to have him even consider doing that for me.

He wont randomly take me on dates, he doesnt text me randomly or anything. Its gotten to the point to where if a special date comes up, and like gifts are involved, i dont expect anything from him.

I feel like i do everything for him and he says its because im the wife and i need to do that anyway.....like i basically take care of our son the whole time (if hes not in daycare while im at work), i do the dishes, i clean the house, i pay the bills (we both work), and i dont know, i just feel like im (okay this is going to sound bad) like a sister to him or something. Like i got nothing.......i dont understand......

Can someone explain if i am doing something wrong or its him?