Bottom line, is you have to do what it takes you make yourself feel better about yourself. I used to be the most jealous ***** out there, but I made some changes, inside and out. I realized, all this 'sexy-sexy' game is just that. We all play it, so there it is. It's not gonna make you feel better to be someone else. It's not.
Don't try to be Angelina Jolie, but hell, girl, recognize your sexy, your pretty, your fun, your worth, and if you are with someone who won't, the best thing you can do is lose the dead weight. I know people will disagree, but I've got more advice (none sound as that, though), but here it is:
Be your own best friend. We women need to stop telling ourselves we are not good enough. I mean, not good enough for whom or for what?
What helps with my anxiety (besides Xanax when it gets really bad) is realizing not everybody has it so much better than me. Seriously, think of your girlfriends/family who call you crying or complaining about their lives, clueless to what real suffering is.
I mean, they are hurting too, not just us. For me, I know I can't do things other people can do and enjoy because I'm freaking out with anxiety, and that sucks. It really does, but the bottom line is, when I'm freaking out with anxiety, I don't want to do those things anyway, so why obsess over the fact that I *should* want to do those things? No, take care of yourself. who else is gonna do it?

I mean, we all feel like we should be "normal". We should do this and that. Well, I should want to eat steamed fish and broccoli every day. I should want to run 5 miles every day. I should want to give every scrap of clothing I haven't worn in the last 6 mos. to GoodWill. I should call my mother more often. I should clean the freakin' dust bunnies under my bed more often. I should plant some freakin' pansies or whatever in my front yard, but you know what? I didn't do any of that. None! And I'm REFUSING to feel bad about it. So what?

I will do what I can do when I can do it. That's my motto when I'm feeling down, and I feel down enough to be a recluse for days on end, BUT, don't ever lose hope. You can always feel better, just realize no one feels great all the time.