In one of the two individual sessions I had with my marriage counselor, he told a somewhat lengthy story about this woman that he had feelings for in grad school, and they sort of got together for a bit, then split up, though he still had feelings for her. And they stayed friends, and later when she was dating this other guy, they were talking about it, and he (MC) said it was like they were dealing with their feelings for each other by talking about her and the other guy. I know the story was intended to relate to me and my situation in some way, but all I could think was, "Well, that was a nice little story. But which person am I supposed to be in that?" Kind of wish I'd actually asked it at the time...