I completely understand, I too am like 75% of women and am attracted to jerks. It sucks. That is part of the reason why I thought coming here might help. My last relationship lasted 5yrs and now I am a complete paranoid mess. It has been 3yrs since we broke up and I thought I was doing much better (self-esteem, secure, confidence and thinking clear) I even thought I was ready for another relationship. Unfortunatly I have been a paranoid mess ever since I met my new man, I dont know if its him or me. Did my last relationship screw me up that much? Will I drive my new man away? Or, is he just as bad? Im really confused